Problem of Teenagers

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Now i would like to share about the teenagers.

      Every teenager has a problem. There is no doubt about it. As any parent of a teenager knows that discipline can be a difficult and confusing issue, of course a teenager also knows what good behavior is and which is the right way to comfort and make their parents happy. Discipline isn’t about punishment; it’s about helping people in developing responsibility. This may be one of the common problems of a teenager, in which the teenager thinks that the punishment is for something else. Here they start disobeying their parents, which creates problems.

       It's really a shame on us to lie to ourselves and not to care about anything in life and consider our parents like a machine with no time to do their own business. Let's ask ourselves, Why do teenagers feel anger when their family punishes them? In other words, What is going on in the world to see that huge gap between family and their teenagers? In this essay, I’ll try to fish out some of the problems between teenagers and parents and find reasons for this bad behavior in which teenagers treat their parents and also provide some possible solutions for them.

       There are a lot of reasons for the problems that happen between teenagers and parents. But the biggest ones are media and technology, where child and teenager can make their secret life; also, with technology, the internet becomes their new father and guide so that many teenagers are not close to their family and remember them only at the time of needing money. And if you ask me, I say that it's due to the adults who dive into their business and forget children and teenagers, and let them in front of that wolves' world without any vaccines (I don't mean it as a physical thing of course!!). I am not a psychologist, but I try to find resolution to the problems that grow bigger day after day.

        However, something has to be done for them and I'm talking here about those who just sleep without any plan to their life and wait for fathers or mothers to supply them with money. I don't mean here to make teenagers out to be adults and ask them not to ask for any help from their parents, but what I do mean here is to help them as much as we can. Again, I say that it does not mean for them to lose their personality and become completely socialist, and to be controlled completely by their parents. I know now that many are likely surprised and their minds may say, What is he talking about? Yes, that's right, I am writing because of these bad habits in the way that teenagers treat their parents.

       Besides media and technology, there are other problems too. Another great problem is the non-presence of a goal in their life. Well, it’s my habit to give a strong proof or example to support my idea. And so I’ll concern myself with someone whom I know perfectly well. I can say that he looks like a happy-go-lucky man all the time. But I can say that his teenaged children are really a curse to him. His elder child always does whatever he wants to do at home without being concerned about anyone at home, and also has sleepy eyes all the time because of drugs. He still depends on his father for everything, even though he has crossed the twenty-years-of-age threshold. According to him, his father must help him for the sake of his future. But this help is not at all good for his future. In this situation, teenagers become very hard to work with, especially at this time. That is because of many factors. The first one is that teenagers need to feel free and independent, so it is good for parents to understand this situation and try to make a good relationship between them and their teenagers. This good relationship will help them to be close to their teenagers.

Another major problem is alcoholism and drugs. Many teenagers experiment with alcohol and other drugs. Adolescent problems with alcohol and other drugs are occurring at an earlier age than ever before. Children today commonly have their first alcohol-drinking experience. Recent research has shown that beer is now the drink of choice for many teenagers. Alcohol damages the health of teenagers as well as disturbing their behavior. Drinking and the after-effects of drinking impair concentration, learning and performance at skilled tasks, and induce irritability, hostility and aggression. A person who begins to use alcohol or other drugs at an early age is very likely to become seriously dependent on them. Alcohol abuse is a major problem for teenagers as a group, including the added possibility of moving on to other drugs such as cocaine and heroin. Alcohol and other drugs are also involved in a large portion of teenage crimes nowadays.

       Also there is a health problem that teenagers face which some doctors have discovered. It's insomnia in teenagers, which is being reported with increasing frequency. Doctors acknowledge that it's a real problem for some teenagers these days, just being unable to sleep at night. What causes insomnia in teenagers? There's certainly the lifestyle that teenagers adopt, which is probably the same as it always used to be. They stay up late at night, especially on the weekend, and then are unable to get up early during the week. It's not uncommon for them to sleep at lunchtime or immediately after school, which makes the problem of not being able to sleep at night worse. They also end up sleeping most of the weekend to try and make up for all the sleep they lost during the week. It's a bit of a vicious circle. The danger is that this can become a pattern, almost like jet lag, where your cycle of sleep adjusts itself completely out of the normal context and your body tries to tell you it's time to go to sleep, when in fact it's not at all. It can take weeks for a teenager to get back into the right sleep habits and recover from insomnia. The problem is that there is never enough time in between weekends for a proper sleep pattern to be formed. Other common causes of insomnia in teenagers are anxiety and depression. It's a fact that many teenagers are having to struggle with just about everything! It can be one of most difficult times of our lives, our adolescent years. Whether it's to do with friends, family, or school, there are almost an unlimited number of reasons why a teenager could be anxious or depressed. Unavoidably, this anxiety and depression is going to lead to sleep problems.